Not feeling good enough 

Years ago ( about 25 to be exact ), I always out, in and around Liverpool 
Thursday night – First Avenue pub ( old swan ) and then onto Buzz night club ( city centre )
Friday night – First Avenue pub 
Saturday night – into the city centre and onto Cream nightclub 
Sunday night – First Avenue pub 
I used to have a brill time 
Anyway, over time, there was one girl who started to stand out for me 
Her and her mates, where always in the same bars and clubs as me and my mates, on the same nights 
I fancied her loads 
I told all my mates about her
I told them to put the word in for me, which they did 
I think she became interested 
She would give me loads of eye contact, smile at me, stand by me
And I would do F all 
Looking back, it wasn’t a nice situation 
I wanted to make contact with her
But I couldn’t 
Every time she would be standing by me, or even walk past me, I was a nervous wreck 
This went on for ages 
Until it was too late
She started going out with someone else 
Between you and I, it still nors away at me now, every now and again 
Oddly, I still see her, every now and again 
She still gives me that same feeling that she gave me, all those years ago ( still haven’t had a full conversation with her ) 
Anyway, since those clubbing days, I’ve ran a successful business for almost 22 years, dealing with people’s behaviour, and I’ve also became a NLP practitioner and life coach 
And because of this, it’s helped me recognise that the way I behaved all those years ago with this lady, is mainly down to 2 things: 
1. Not feeling good enough 

2. Rejection/ fear 
Over the past 22 years, I’ve done absolutely loads of things in regards to working on my own personal development 
Courses, workshops, had physcotherapy, done loads of reading, seen Tony Robbins etc etc 
So I am now more equipped to deal with those situations ( not that I’m planning on going around and telling people who I fancy ) 
Have you ever felt like this, with something or someone? 
If so, here’s some tips that might help you from tinybuddha.com
1. The people you compare yourself to, compare themselves to other people to:

We all compare ourselves to other people, and I can assure you that the people who seem to have it all do not 
2. Your mind can be a very convincing liar: 

I saw a quote that said, “don’t believe everything you think”. Thoughts are just thoughts, and it can be exhausting to give so much power to the negative ones 
3. There is more right with you than wrong with you 
4. You need love the most when you feel you deserve it the least 

I find that it is most difficult to accept love and understanding from others when I’m in a state of anger, shame, anxiety or depression. But adopting the above truth really shifted my perspective and made me realise that love is actually the greatest gift I can receive during such times 
5. You have to fully accept and make peace with the ‘now’ before you can reach and feel satisfied with the ‘later’ 
6. Focus on progress rather than perfection and how far you’ve come rather than on how far you have left to go 

One of the biggest causes of self loathing is the hell bent need to ‘get it right’. We strive for perfection and success, and when we fall short, we feel less than worthless. What we don’t seem to realise is that working towards our goals and being willing to put ourselves out there are accomplishments within themselves, regardless of how many times we fail 
7. You can’t hate your way into loving yourself 

Telling yourself what a failure you are won’t make you any more successful. Telling yourself you’re not living up to your full potential won’t help you reach a higher potential. Telling yourself you’re worthless and unlovable won’t make you feel any more worthy or loveable 
That’s it for today. Hope it’s helped 
Paul 🙂 

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